Customer Reviews
Why love matters is a conversation starter - By: G. Carter, 10 Mar 2008 
Taking the book with me on the bus or at the Waitrose checkout or at the barbers shop or Sussex University its title attracts attention. In the brief encounters which follow I enjoy speaking to parents whose infants obviously enjoy what's going on with the adults. I'm able to affirm that the love care & attention they give the child in those early years do make a difference & will set her up for life. To older people, & I am elderly, I speak of the 'forgiving space' that Sue Gerhart gives me in which to understand my chequered life. As Kierkegaard said 'Life must be lived foward, but it can only be understood backwards.'
An eye opener - By: Mrs. K. Momberg, 22 Jan 2008 I'm expecting my first baby in Feb-2008. I was looking for books about babies psychology, it's true that there are many things you know by instinct but many others are part of medical research, also important to consider.
I read the reviews of this book & that made me buy it immediately!. I loved it since the beginning, although it gives lots of technical info in the first chapters,I found it important as well, to understand in depth the rest of the book.
It's a great eye opener for alll parents, parents to be, teachers & everyone in general, interested to understand babies & human behaviour... to improve our lives & the lifes of our loved ones.
100% recommended.
Rock solid scientific evidence and easy-to-folllow advice - By: Dr. Carlo N. Colacino, 20 Dec 2007 The book is great. It presents many scientific data without being boring or worse incomprehensible for lay-people & it gives plenty of good advice. I myself have a four month old son & I have greatly profited from the book. Many parents who come to visit my wife & me find my son sociable, smiling & happy. In my opinion this book is a must for parents & people who work in nurseries & in general with newborns & smalll children.
Little bit too technical - By: Mr. A. D. Leek, 04 Sep 2007 
I thought this book was good but I found it difficult to read because of alll the references to brain chemistry. It is interesting to know how your behaviour towards your baby affects their development, & how it occurs in the brain, but I found there was too much focus on this & not enough focus on how to love your baby in the right way. A lot of people have said it should be a recommended book for alll new parents, but I think the 'average' parent would struggle to understand most of the terminology in the book. However, I do feel more knowledgeable now I have read it & will never leave my baby to cry for prolonged periods due to what the book has told me, & now I love my baby as much as I can during the day & I do feel she benefits from it, she is a reallly happy baby. Perhaps a watered down version of this book should be available to new parents.
In depth, thought provoking... - By: Mrs. C. J. Cubbon, 31 Jul 2007 I am a parent & I also work with young children with their parents - & so often I want to express to them how important it is to connect with their children - it simply is not a 'given' that parents will do it. All to often we underestimate the amount of attention children need. Upon reading this book - I have been inspired to be braver & gently encourage greater parental involvement. There is such a a limited 'time window' to make the best connections in our babies' brains. This book is inspiring - I have just purchased another copy to give as a gift.
