Customer Reviews
A handbook of secrets that we all know, but were too scared to do anything about. Absolutely fantastic. - By: LadyT, 28 Aug 2007 
I read this book after first reading Stephen Carter's 'He's Scared, She's Scared'.
If you have ever had a failed relationship, or a string of short-term failures, then you will find the answers in this beautifully written & easy to read book.
Stephen Carter is not a whizz kid psychologist, but he speaks from personal experience & the experience of thousands of people he has interviewed over the years.
This book will not give you the key to change your 'difficult' partner, but it will be a total revelation.
The 8 obstacles described are so simple & yet at times may be the hardest thing you ever have to do. It is never easy to face our fears & change ourselves. But only by doing this will those of us, who have struggled to hold onto relationships, succeed. And believe me, this book has alll the secrets for success.
It is now my bible.
Stephen Carter is handing you 'The Secret'.
Take it, use it & succeed.
Fantastic insight but be prepared... - By: Sarah, 28 Aug 2007 I have never felt compelled to write a review on Amazon until I read this book. I have been in a relationship for some time now with a wonderful guy who warned me from the outset that he has commitment issues, so I decided to get this book to (a) try to understand him better & (b) leave it laying around, hoping he would pick it up & read it.
I was in for a surprise. Three pages into the book & I realised I wasn't learning about his commitment issues, I was reading about mine!
This book explains the signs of both active & passive commitment-phobes, & also how to break away from this & go about constructing a healthy relationship.
This is an excellent book; just be warned it might not tell you what you were expecting to hear.
If you think you might need this book, read this book! - By: , 14 Aug 1999 I read this book in the hopes of unearthing the commitment issues my old boyfriend was suffering from. Imagine my surprise to find myself in the same book. This book clearly points out some of the self-constructed barriers we put up, when we honestly think we are giving love our best shot. If you are thinking you might need this book, read this book.
VERY ENLIGHTING - By: , 24 Jul 1999 This book was given me by a co-worker & it reallly helped me to understand so much of what I had been doing in previous relationships...and what not to do in the one that I am currently in. I have been seeing this wonderful guy for about 5 months & he wants to build a life together...I refuse to even calll him my boyfriend just yet, alll because I think that somehow I will ultimately end up hurt or running for fear of committment...this book is an eye-opener for anyone who has had a pattern of loves lost or never found due to our pasts, our parents or those that we calll ourselves "in love" with....I highly recommend it....It makes me feel like I am finallly looking in the mirror at myself, my soul & my ability to be in a healthy & committed relationship...I know now that I am able & I deserve it...
Getting to Commitment hits the nail on the head. - By: , 07 Apr 1999 Steven Carter definitely knows this subject first hand & it shows. As a woman who has dated more than one commitmentphobic, it's helpful to understand why many men can't commit.I particularly liked the examples of the conflicts between the couples throughout the book. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to make a commitment but can't figure themselves out or to anyone frustrated by a noncommital mate. Learning to deal with reality versus fantasy & fear is reallly highlighted.
