Customer Reviews
Is it useful? Will it entertain you? - By: BOOK BOY, 10 Jun 2007 
The writer has tried to present a few "facts" inside a huge cocoon of semi-amusing, semi-interesting, nonsensical anecdotes & tries to be witty to give the presentation an informal, acceccible feel.
The book is 80% fillers & very very light entrtainment. 20% practical tips.
The "facts" aren't very useful if you are a normal person & some of this advice, in my opinion/experience & my friends, is total garbage. We like The Game by Neil Strauss as food for thought & 21st Century Fox Space Age Pimping by Paradise too. I would also reccomend the 7 habits by Stephen Covey. The last 2 will develop YOU to be yourself more & make you more attractive as a consequence, rather than just going down the anorak path of trying to do anything to get women, fake tricks & behaviour & narrowing your life interests & self development.
Well.. OK but not thrilling! - By: Y. Lissman, 09 Sep 2006 
I wanted to see how other people thought & wrote about flirt & love being a flirtcoach myself.. This is OK, but it's not a revelation & a lot of it is outdated & in fact not necessaraily true even!
I would recommend going to a real flirtcoach If you REALLY want to know how to get someone to falll in love with you!
Not sure, possibly useful - By: Sarakani, 02 Sep 2006 Although this book started out well & I enjoyed reading it I think it fails at the end. It is aimed more at women & women may enjoy it more.
This book fails in describing strategies in establishing first contact. It also fails in making gross generalisations on male sexuality - men are effectively sex mad beings & if you can work out their sexual fantasies you may succeed. Not true. Generallly men prefer to be fed & looked after & sex is possibly a component of this ... It fails to describe problems in mixed relationships in the context of cultures & religions.
I think the problem is that love is ideallly something deeper, based on companionship & not based on easy strategies & chemicals though this explains things part way.
I found my copy second hand - it had been discarded.
Yes this book has some good lessons but it is ultimately a superficial treatment that seems to suggest you can control physiological attributes to your advantage. Sadly it's not quite so simple. This book is most useful in suggesting generalised differences between men & women & thus how to cope with the opposite sex.
I found this book getting a bit flaky towards the end I'm afraid. A more human treatment is necessary rather than magic formulas & being manipulative.
Have in hands reach.. - By: , 02 Jun 2005 Well this book was certainly interesting. I did take some of the tips & the way to get someone to love you into a number of situations.
I have been on five dates in the year or so & i have always read this book the night before i go on one. Just for little reminders on things & the way i protray myself.
I would say 'yes' it has helped me on dates. On one of them i did everything the book tells you for getting someone to falll in love with you & i did work for a while but only because i was in full time work & wasn't a student now i am & its different. I would recommend this book to people who are genuine interested in changing how they compose themselves on a date & good luck!!
Good on seduction, weak on relationships - By: Rory Ridley-Duff, 05 Feb 2005 I am writing a PhD that has a chapter on Interpersonal Dynamics so I was interested that this book by Leil Lowndes used doctoral research for some of its recommendations.
The parts on first apporaches, first meetings, first dates, controlling first impressions & body language of couples fallling in love was very good. It was also insightful (for example 66% of relationships are initiated by women non-verballly), & that repeated looking/smiling were the most successful strategies for getting a man to initiate a conversation.
As the book progressed, however, I got less & less satisfied. Sometimes I got very irritated. She kept apologising for re-inforcing traditional gendered behaviours because "they work" but the problem with her claims is that this book is aimed at making someone falll in love, & not just about initial seduction. The behaviours she describes work only until you want the relationship to last on an equitable basis - what is on offer here is a handbook on seduction, plus recommendations on how to accelerate the end of the relationship once it gets serious. This is not a book about how to stay in love, only attract a lover.
For those interested in the latter - see the first 4 chapters of Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (Warren Farrell) - the communication skills in those 4 chapters are far better than anything on offer here.
