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Stepwives: 10 Steps to Help Ex-Wives and Stepmothers End the Struggle and Put the Kids First

By: OXHORN
Binding: Paperback
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
ISBN: 0743222466
ISBN-13: 9780743222464
Released: 27 May 2002
RRP: £8.51
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Worthwhile reading for either stepwife (X or current wife) - By: , 17 Jan 2005
I am a mother of two adult children & have been a stepmother of adolescent children for two years now. They live with their mother but see us regularly. Until I read this book I felt absolutely zero sympathy for the X. Reading this didn't erase the hurt she caused (causes) alll of us - herself included - but it gives me & my husband a new & valuable perspective on her grief cycle (she left him with kids in 2000, divorced in 2002) & how primal maternal instincts play a part in putting us at odds. I felt so good about the info in this book I sent her a copy as a Christmas present. No news on how she received it, but whether she accepts it well or not isn't the point. What's important is that she now has the info that could soften & inform her perspective & we can ALL focus on putting the kids first. Unlike some other stepmotherhood books I ordered, this book is valuable no matter where you live. It doesn't preach about societal family situations in the States, although its resource pages focus there. Even those are well worth an Internet review. The best thing I got from this - in addition to being more sympathetic to her pain - is that I can change my behavior guided by this book meaning she & I don't have to do it together for the kids to benefit.
This book is helping my family and saving my soul ! - By: , 28 Aug 2002
If you are a stepmother or ex-wife & are in a situation of shared care with the children of the dissolved marriage then this book is a MUST. It should be handed out during divorce to ex-wives if her children have been given the opportunity of shared care. It should definately be something every single women should be aware of should they meet & falll in love with a divorced man who has shared care of his children.
I knew about this book for a long time before I decided to buy it. I suppose I just refused to believe that my situation was in any way problematic. On reading this book I have laughed, cried & basicallly wish I'd bought it sooner. It is truly an excellent book. For women in my situation, the stepmother, to children who see me as much as they see their real mother, this book is of great comfort. The book is written from two points of view - the ex-wife & the stepmother hence they are refered to collectively as stepwives. A lifetime of emotional damage is being laid down in broken familes when things are ignored & people pretend they don't exist.. or that step parents don't exist. It is applicable to every situation like our one where my husbands ex-wife left him for another man & I met him once they had divorced & shared care had been granted (the children are basicallly growing up in two homes). It applies if you are the ex-wife in this situation, it applies if you are the women your husband ran off with, if you are the ex-wife having been left by your husband. It applies to every situation its great !